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What Does Valentine’s Day Mean to You? | #QTNA

Hey guys! Aren’t you surprised at my consistency? Yea, me too, becsuse I’m tired lol. So Valentine’s Day ♥ is around the corner and I observed (while single and not), that many people in our community (I am talking people of colour) behave two ways, yes ✌🏾. So I posed a question on twitter (@nnennayalator.. Hit that follow button 🔳 please lol) :

Twitter Question that Needs Answers!

Now this is not limited to just African men, but I really do want to know. I rarely see women complaining (I mean even if we don’t have a lover, we make time for family or friends and keep it pushing), BUT if you bring it up to a man… An African man… The response is usually not pleasant. [Disclaimer: this is only meant for those this case applies to, if it does not.. Enjoy the rest of the article from a different lens 😊].

Now, some men did respond and gave me answers like ‘it is a forced holiday’ or ‘the actually holiday should not be celebrated or a holiday at all’, etc, but then should all holidays be treated like this? Unless you are a practicing Witness, I wonder why the push back from this one holiday? If you are in a serious relationship with someone that loves Valentine’s Day, should you break up? These are questions that need answers!

Women chimed in as well! I had a good friend basically say

“Be with a partner that has common interest”

and I totally agree with this, and if you love your partner as you said you would, wouldn’t you do something that makes them happy? If they are a lover of all holidays, and especially Vals, wouldn’t their happiness make you happy too? It is one day, one lol! It is not like someone is asking you to give birth or anything [insert petty smirk here].

I still want to hear your opinions (keep it respectful) and I also have a poll for you guys (yay?). Let’s get some interaction going, shall we? Catch you all next Thursday!

INSIGHTFUL POLL BELOW:

Ciao,

Nnennayalator

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I’s Married Now Y’all |Traditionally | Part Trois|Finale

I almost did not make it y’all. I am really trying to be consistent with content and bring in the last post of the traditional wedding blog series. Of this trilogy I discussed the summary and the planning components of me planning my traditional wedding from afar (I am based outside of naija). I discussed some of the vendors, showed pics, and dịscussed my mental breakdowns (yes, more than once… Will discuss further down bruv), and how it was still all worth. Now I want to take you on the day of and subsequent days, come along friends.

Trad day was nothing short of amazing. Really do not have much more than that. It was F-A-S-T! If I could slow it down, or experience Trad day in slow motion I would! My friends and family were around and got to experience a monumental milestone in I and my chocolate drop’s lives, I we got to experience an important cultural moment in our lives, and we had fun doing it! It also brought two families together which was amazing because I gained a whole family ♥.

What made things even special were my friends that were able to partake in such an important moment and got to see Nigeria 🇳🇬! It was honestly like a big field trip for my friends y’all with me, chocolate drop, our families and @theifunanya (hey boo) as the tour guides. We did have a rough time with air travel, really the airports. If you need to do travel and have the time (especially going east) travel by road or just fly to Owerri and drive rest of way. Y’all, nobody will be believe me that I cried in the middle of the airport… Yes… Friends and I were about to beat everyone up and catch some hands 👐🏾. It was a very stressful moment, but we survived 6+ hours later.

We went to Owerri, Lagos, and really trotted the country. Peep some of the hotels we stayed at places to check out:

Hotels:

P. Noble (Afikpo)

La Amistad (New Owerri)

Villa Toscana (Oniru Victoria Island)

Things to Do:

Club Opium (Owerri)

Club Cubana (Lagos)

Cafe Lydia (Victoria Island)

Thought Pyramid (Victoria Island)

Tarkwa Beach (Lagos Island)

Lagos Market (let me find out actual name, but they gave great finds FOR (EVERYTHING)

So yes, I feel like I can conquer the world after pulling that whole traditional wedding and trip with all the challenges and people to enjoy it and create memories. If you have any questions about traveling to Nigeria or just statements, hit up the Comments!

Ciao,

Nnennayalator

Here are more pics:

PS: cake by kencake of @PaparazyEvents 🎂

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Double Career|Wearing Two Hats

I keep seeing this question floating around, so I got a little inspired: Can a woman be a Family & Career woman? Many of times both men and women believe it is not possible without one or the other suffering, and for others it is seamless [ or fake it to be seamless lol]. Why should this be? Of course Parenthood in general can be pretty difficult, but is being a woman with kids any more difficult? Should she not have help? And being that my Nigerian behind has to think this through, would my career have to take a back seat to me being a baby making machine [gives a major side], I HAVE QUESTIONS and I NEED ANSWERS!!

answers

I need to gauge how hard this may or may not be. I mean, motherhood is hard and all, I really do not want to give up my career, but I do live in this United States of ‘Murica and their maternity policies and child care are straight up basura. Furthermore, families usually have to be two income in order to make it [I have a brunch problem, forget shopping] comfortably, so my behind has to really work anyway! WHO WILL WATCH THESE CHIRREN! AGAIN:

answers_sheldon

So what do you think? Can family and career co-exist, or would one need to take a back seat? Take a poll, it is anonymous… I promise!

Forum is up for discussion, because I do want a male perspective as well. You know how it goes.

Ciao,

Nnennayalator

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Happy New Year! Woot!

Ok, so I am about four months late, but this is the first post of the new year, so cut me some slack [Please and thanks]. I already broke about 3 of my new year’s resolutions, so that tells me that I should stop making them. I would also ask the corny question of “what was/is your new year’s resolution?”, but again I am waaaayyyy overdue. There were a few changes to the blog and will be more changes but all for the better. This is my baby and is slowly evolving along with a few more projects brewing up, so sit tight.. I promise this wont bite (corny, but hey it rhymed!). Hope all is well for everyone, give me a shout in the comments if you like!

munagi_under_construction sign

Ciao,

 

Nnennaya|Noir

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Survey Says….

So I am a first gen kid. Meaning my parents are immigrants and decided to settle down and have my Igbotic arse in LA. Now many say that what I am may be up for debate, but I identify as a N I G E R I A N. Yes, and I do go through the fight of not being accepted by either side [ie I am seen as a “different” black to many here stateside and to Nigerians, I am not “Nigerian enough”], but whatevs I know who I am and where I come from [like.. down to the village… try me nau]. However, throughout my cultural fluidity of being a Nigerian born on Angeleno soil, I do know one thing for sure… WE LOVE FOOD! Jesu, we dont play o when it comes to chowing down. From different soups, heavy ass “snacks” or appetizers like isi ewu, nkowbi, etc to other dishes that can put Andre the Giant to sleep in one take. So I decided to take a small poll of “What is your preference?” What type starch do you prefer to eat [yes, I am judging you lol]. Here we go!

1.EbaEba

2.iyanIyan

3.amalaAmala

4.semovitaSemovita

5.akpuAkpu

6.indifference you do not even care.. starch is starch and you are hungry.

Comment and let me know!

Post Scriptum: You do not have to be Nigerian to take the survey, if you have tried it, or have something similar, comment too!

Oya… Ready… Set… EAT… i mean… GO!

 

 

 

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An African City Season 2 is Approaching

image (January 2016)

So it took almost 3 years for this show to finally come back to my life and I could not be more ecstatic about it(pon many other blessings) and share the news! 

African City is about a group of women who travel back home after living abroad (school and working) to settle their roots (again).  It reminds me of Sex and the City but 1 million times better. The show kind of reminds me of me and wanting to spread my wings internationally (soon oh!), but have yet to make that solid decision lol.

The scenarios are so relatable that I wonder “did they see my journal,” or “why the hell have they not hired me for the New season?” They talk about everything under the sun from romantic relationships,  sisterhood,  and the struggles of being a modern woman in an African country. So check it out!  I will leave a link to season 1 for you. Enjoy!!!

Nnennaya|Noir

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“Why Hit Him with the Gucci Flip Flop?”

All the rave about this twitter story (the second one I believe, first one is #ZOLA) that turns a very serious matter into a hilarious drama with screen shots of tweets that string into the perfect visual scenario. Of course I already posted to my Facebook, but I had to provide the link so that my subbies are well in the loop. I needed some laughter and this story gave me ALL of my life…  (I hope he turns this into a movie) Life does not have to be so serious all the time. Enjoy!

Click the link: https://twitter.com/XLNB