love & friendships

Whatever Wednesday

Yes, I know I am a day late, BUT I have a legitimate excuse… ok I don’t other than I went to a concert on Wednesday and I was BEAT (concert update on Friday though). So I have a couple of things that my subscribers (and friends), want to discuss. The first topic on her mind is:

Why are men of this era soooooooo different than men of our father’s era in relation to how they view/approach relationships and marriage; let’s not leave out their views of hard-work and being providers as well

Is this a question that has been on your mind as well (as a woman)? What are the mens’ perspective on this matter as well? This open discussion but I do not want anyone to be disrespectful on here… nice… clean… healthy discussions only (maybe we can get some understanding here lol).

Second topic was a discussion that I and a colleague (subby as well… woot!) had a discussion about over bbm (yes I still use it… JUDGE ME) and we decided to bring it here it was in regards to this meme here:

africanmen

Now he had his fair share of words sha, but you know… I have my fair share of words too (I thought I was hilarious!!). But do you believe this holds some truth? Are women usually not held accountable for their own actions as well? Or is this just some vicious cycle and bad timing where a lot of people get hurt?

Last question. If an ex invited you to their wedding, would you attend?
I will surely involve myself in this discussion because I have soooooooo much to gist about on these matters lol. So let us take it to the stree.. I mean to this blog and discuss.

Ciao,

Nnennaya|Noir

5 thoughts on “Whatever Wednesday”

  1. First up, as regards men of these being less than our fathers. That is most unkind. The values of the day has changed from what they were in 18.. You don’t see men comparing ladies to their mothers. This is because we realize that times have changed. Of course this does not suggest by any stretch of imagination that men should not take care of their families

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    1. Yes, it is a generalization, BUT majority of the problems do remain that the effort is no longer there these days. I do not blame the men fully (there are some “females” that do not know how to not conduct themselves after one blasted dinner/movie), but from my own experience… dating these days are quite frustrating. Furthermore, values should not change… it is instilled and should be timeless, regards how times have changed. Many of those values are values my father raised me with and is a choice to keep them. I mean it is just my opinion oooo, just as you have yours. I value your insight 🙂

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  2. N^2, great discussion points, here is my view: topic one: It is not fair to compare both men of different era but there are certain component that is fixed which makes one see differences clearly eg: principles, values, morals etc, then there are variable ones that time and environment influence, eg: education, social exposure, culture and society. Personally, and generally speaking, I think men of this era are just no where close to our fathers, eg, most men do not open doors for their Girlfriends, wives, sisters, they drag their feet when it comes to ‘wearing the pant’ and taking serious responsibilities, they look for ways to feed off of women, hard work is a missing word in their dictionaries, their idea of a good life is mostly what is acceptable to their friends and social network. What I am trying to say is, our fathers were there, they cared for their wives and children, they courted (wooed) and married when they became of age and stage. They maintained “for the most part” a decent home and tried to be there for their family.But nowadays there is a trend of ‘baby-fatherism’ going on, not quite sure where the root of the problem is but I am sure the men share more than half of it.
    Topic two: LOL, I believe that in other for a man to destroy a woman’s life the lady must have (directly or indirectly) given him the key to drive her life to the point of wrecking it and ‘walking’ away! Women need to be more wiser and smarter when dealing with men and matters of the heart. I guess the question to women should be: would you rather a wrecked life or a broken heart? I will go for the latter because time can heal a broken heart but a wrecked life will take much longer to heal and a times the scars from such wreck can be detrimental (I am talking about bad credit, debts, a child/ren, stigma, loss of confidence, broken career, the list goes on). Some women would remain in an unhealthy relationship just to maintain statuesque or shame of what her social circle might say.

    All in all, we just need to be fair to and with each other for us (men and women) to coexist and live in this world. Karma is real.

    Share your thoughts…..

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    1. Yes I agree! However, when it does come to matters of the heart, we tend to not take our brains with us (men and women), but I do feel like these days people are more selfish and more into what they can benefit that relationships are more than often one-sided. I cannot even blame social media because you are in control for what you put out there or if you put anything out there in the public at all.

      And it is sad when people stay in unhealthy relationships, part of that is a self-esteem issue and part being content with settling. I speak for myself but as I grew older and wiser (experience has dealt with me early sha), I know my threshold and I know when to jet. What I do want people to learn though is how to distinguish between knowing the relationship is worth it and not running when things do get hard AND when it is just unhealthy… that is the problem.

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