love & friendships

Women Sleep With Men to Survive | Did she lie?

 

Click Here to Watch Boduong’s Interview with Amanpour 

I just read that Moesha Boduong has apologized for her special she did on CNN with Amanpour stating that SHE sleeps with a married man to pay bills [she lives in Ghana] and I am wondering… DID SHE LIE? but did i lieAnd to be quite frank, I do not necessarily know what are her true woes, but I cannot judge her when I am knowingly getting paid 75% less than a man for the same job here in the United States, let alone in Ghana… like ‘wa gime’?! I also so not believe she should say sorry to any of us [maybe to her married boyfriend’s wife, but definitely not to us]. I am in no way condoning sleeping with married men, however, who am I to judge if a woman is really does do such acts because she needs to eat or needs a roof over her head? Let us unpack this situation, and I mean the elephant in the room situation.

What Moesha is talking about is nothing new under the sun, I mean NOTHING. Back home women are not even seen as equal to a man in the workplace, and majority of the times cases such as SEXUAL HARASSMENT are not even discussed in human resource departments. Maybe this speaks numerous volumes that women are so much objectified in the workforce, that is has become a norm to be a kept sidechick. How many times do we hear this and turn blind eye and usually villanize the woman? If it were to be easy to not have to marry for stability or sleep your way to the top, then maybe the Moesha’s would not even exist, am I right or am i right?

Now, am I mad at CNN for shedding such an ugly light? NO! I am not. We as Africans 3d17687f46db64c1b5eddaaaa0c163d0--be-like-meme-hoes-be-likedefinitely have pride, and never want to own up when confronted with some bad aspects that are clearly a problem. It is time we face the ugly truth. I wrote about the difficulties of being a woman in the workforce from past experience (check out my contribution regarding this topic on Ivery Arie click here for article ) when I tried to relocate to Nigeria, so what Ms. Boduong is not far fetched.

What we need not do is continue this hypocrisy, the men that indulge in such things as breaking their vows should be the ones shamed, not the women that are simply trying to make it in life period. Do I condone it, again NO, but I do see who are at fault, and I do understand. Vows should not be broken, I cannot stress that enough, but we cannot deny that this is a common occurrence. The façade that we as a community try to portray as if everything is angelic and gravy needs to stop. Maybe effective human resources departments to handle cases like sexual harassment in the work place, or for women to have a fair chance in the work force could be a start. Our places are not only in the house; we can be in the work force, we can be in politics and we definitely should not and do not only sleep ourselves to get what we want.. What is your take on this interview and what she said? Is it that bad that many have no choice but to depend on a man?Really want your views on this 🙂

Ciao,

Nnennayalator

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2018 Quarterly Update & Events|Wass-good?

Hey y’all, how is your new year going so far? Hit any of your resolutions yet? gave up yet? Ask for the restart button yet? Yes, No, maybe so? Well, if your year has been a disaster so far, do not be so hard on yourself, and I say this to echo to myself because I need to take my own advice lmao! I said I was going to update everything Thursday and y’all…. that was too damn hard. I really could not keep up with work, social life, plan a wedding, and a plethora of other projects that I am involved in… but I PROMISE… I will do better for the rest of the year if you stay tuned to this paid space of interwebs lol.

Aside from having a successful traditional wedding and an upcoming “white wedding” as we Africans like to call it, I have some events that you all should peep and participate in if you have time in your busy shehdules (spelled that wrong on purpose… sound it out lol):

  • BrunchCon: April 22, 2018 click here to purchase tickets I will be there live and direct… hopefully I will not be to turnt to not snapchat and do ig Live. But it is open bar and bites from all the vendors and I am sure I will have a blast and so should you! Yall know i am the self proclaimed #champagnechampion.
  • UIU DMV Jollof Jam: April 28, 2018 Click here to purchase tickets This will be fun! but do get your ticket before they sell out. Not everyone can cook some good jollof rice, and here some skills will be put to the taste buds test.
  • Igbo Amaka Cultural: Keep this organization on your radar. They will be having a talk show (which involves yours truly on a couple of episodes), and touches on some interesting topics concerning Igbo Culture. If you are looking to understand, learn, or cure some curiousity of a certain ethnic group in Nigeria… this is one of the orgs to look out for. Check out their website as well (drop a donation or two, or three lol) Click for Igbo Amaka Cultural website here

I definitely will have the best brunch spots in DC to check out (definitely bottomless ones will be in there), and an update on “The Safe Sphere”- a podcast that I collabed with @Ndidi_love. With all of the events and projects in the works, this year was not too bad. Cannot say the same for those in the lime light.. seems to be a cheating season in the first quarter… but hopefully it gets better.. for them? Anywho.. lol resolutions and ish never work out for me.. and if you are not hitting your resolutions… IT IS OK!