I am 25, Single, and NIGERIAN

Ok,  let me start by saying this…  Do not feel sorry for me,  I get enough judgment from my elders,  so I know I will get from my peers when I throw myself out there (unless they understand my pseudo struggle).

Maybe I’m picky,  or just scared straight,  but I am like…  Super single. Just go on ahead and slap an “S” on my chest and let the world know because half the Nigerian community back home (in LA) and home home (in naija) know. I get the usual “eehhhhhh our daughter,  when will you bring in your Mrs. Degree?” I wish I had an answer for them,  but I don’t. I’m even beginning to get the question from my pops of life on my love life,  so you know I have to figure something out.

 

It is not like I do not want to settle down,  because I am trying! I even went out on a date last week (which was awesome by the way),  and even giving online dating a try (I know, who would have thought?! That is for another post), and even try the age old “Nnenna I have someone I want you to meet.” but to no avail.

This unwritten rule that you must be married by 25 is just absurd, because I am still trying to plan to conquer the world – in other words find my true career lol – while men can be 53864929292 years old and not feel the heat of family pressure…  Unfair much?!
But the P R E S S U R E… oh the pressure I get from family,  and the rubbish guys I get that think they are doing me a favour – don’t. Times have changed, sadly, and i firmly believe that men don’t even court women these days because effort is non existent. If I do even meet a guy that is even a third of a man like my pops of life,  I promise this post would be non existent and is vice versa for men and some women these days. To be truly raw and Frank,  half the people I know are in lopsided relationships anyway or one is a liability to the other – I want no parts of that please and no thank you.

So the next time I get a “why are you single” or an “Our daughter you are running out of time o” I will put on my pained smile until Mr. Right catches up to me…  Wherever the heck he is lol.

Signing off,

Nnennaya|Noir